Let’s Not Call Them Resolutions

2011-year-resolution-400x400I’ve been lurking around WordPress and have seen so many blogs with posts regarding New Years resolutions.  I don’t believe in resolutions.  We make these up on the first day of every year just to be forgotten quickly afterwards as one settles back into the humdrum or daily life.  I mean, we rattle these off while still on holiday vacation from work, drunk off champagne and high from sugar cookies and hot chocolate.  Why wouldn’t we think we could rule the world in the upcoming year?  The second week of January arrives, we get busy and complacent and most of us are like “Aw, F-it….at least it was a good idea!”

What is the actual meaning of the word “Resolution”?  This is what google told me:


  1. a firm decision to do or not to do something.
    “she kept her resolution not to see Anne any more”
  2. the action of solving a problem, dispute, or contentious matter.
    “the peaceful resolution of all disputes”

If you notice – the definition actually has a negative connotation.  It has to do with deciding to not do something or resolves around the basis of problems.  .

So, let’s not call them resolutions.  Let’s call them accomplishments….let’s call them goals. What’s the difference?  Goals and accomplishments are positive things.  They don’t have to be about solving a problem or resolving not to do something.  Goals and accomplishments are about doing something new, something worthy….something fulfilling.  They don’t have to be world-changing.  Hell, they don’t even have to be life changing but if I can reach at least one realistic goal that I set for myself in 2014, no matter how small or insignificant, then it will be a good year.

After all of this thought, I actually only have a couple of goals I would like to reach this year.  There’s no need to have a long list and the fewer I have, the more time and effort I can dedicate to reaching each one. I’ll share my list with you and at this time in 2015 you can ask me how I did.

1. Start and maintain a food blog.  I’m always telling my mother she has so many recipes that it would take years and years to possibly make everything she is an expert at making.  She makes a lot of things from scratch and even the things she uses recipes for – she changes and tweaks into something of her own.  Why let these jewels go without sharing?  When I was young, we didn’t have internet, blogs, Facebook, twitter etc. She would write the recipes down and hand them to people.  Now there’s a new world out there for letting everyone else know what a great cook and baker she is and I intend on doing it.  So, after a bit of research and time – this year, I will launch a food only blog and make it official.


2. Move the family into a bigger house.  We’ve been renting a really nice home for going on 6 years now and we have the world’s best landlords.  They never bug us, never raised the rent, never pop up unannounced, fix anything that breaks and even send us a Christmas gift every year without fail.  But with two kids that were only 10 and 8 when we moved in – who are now teenagers – we’ve outgrown it three times over.  Since the kids have made several friends who live in the area,  the front door mimics the madness of Grand Central at times and it would be really nice to have some extra room where my husband and I can retreat to and actually watch a full length movie or our favorite TV show without being interrupted.  Our lease isn’t up until the fall and I say this every year, but we will move this year.  


3. Take a “different” summer vacation. This is one is already in motion.  We have been visiting some area of Florida for every single year except for 2012 when we went to Hawaii.  Even then, it was the same type of vacation…we hung out on the beach for a week.  This is what we do.  Beach, theme park, beach, theme park, beach, theme park on and on…  We wanted to do something different in 2014.  Go somewhere we have never been and do something we have never done.  So California is on the agenda this year thanks to my social media loving children who asked to attend VidCon, the annual convention for YouTube-ers.  We will combine the 3 day convention with a four day driving tour of Los Angeles, Malibu, Hollywood and wherever the road leads us.  It should definitely be an adventure and we are really looking forward to it.


That is it for now.  Three goals, three very realistic and tangible goals for my 2014.  I knew way before Dec 31 what my plans were and this is a big reason why I started blogging here again.  It’s always fun to share the ride with others and have a way to document it along the way.  Maybe several will go along with me on this journey, maybe nobody will but sharing it makes me accountable.  I hope you will visit often and see where it goes.  I look forward to good things coming in 2014!

“Like” Me or “Like” Me Not..Will You Support My Blog?

Hello blog friends!  Thankfully the office is a bit quieter today so I am able to write today.  Yesterday was a cluster “F” and I think one of the first weekdays I haven’t been able to post in a long time.  I’m breathin easier today and it’s Wednesday so all is good.

Today I want to bring your attention to this clever little “contest” I was entered into so that I can get a spot on the coveted blogroll of the infamous Mr. Le Clown.  If you have been around WP blogland very long, you will surely recognize him:

Oops…no wait….here he is:

that’s better

I found Mr. L’s blog through another blogger’s page and was instantly drawn to it.  He had me at “Dick In A Box”.  The author of “A Clown on Fire” Eric, isn’t so bad either…creepy how much they look like each other isn’t it??


Anyhoo– Now, I’m what you call a blogging virgin.  My blog hasn’t been around very long but I’m convinced the Clown is stalking me because yesterday I was invited to participate in his blogroll contest.  Please see the details HERE.

I gratefully thanked its creator for the invitation but graciously bowed out….I am not blog-worthy enough to participate in such a widely recognized battle of the minds!  I tried to get out….but he pulled me back in (yes, that was a Godfather reference).

So this is where you come in.  I would absolutely be forever in your debt if each one of my 100+ followers visited my friend Le Clown’s blog to support me.  Go to: http://clownonfire.wordpress.com/2012/08/28/blogroll-contest/ then look for my entry comment on there…about halfway down.  I’m contestant #12.  Look for this pic:

Just reply to my comment with another comment and write “LIKE”. That will get it counted.  The more LIKES I get, the better chance I will siege one of the coveted blogroll spots.

While you are there, take a tour around “A Clown on Fire”.  Chances are, you will leave with your eyes and brain on fire too but you will have enjoyed your time there, I guarantee that.  Eric certainly is a poetic genius!  (And Le Clown, if you are reading this…no, that wasn’t sucking up…I’m stating fact.)

Thank you in advance, loyal blog followers…this is a race to the finish line and I appreciate all the help I can get!

Have a wonderful Wednesday.


I Swear, I’ll Kick Your Ass

courtesy of dreamstudies.org

I had the strangest dream the other night.  Or rather, I think it was more towards the morning because of course, that’s when I’m sleeping most comfortably….right before the freaking alarm goes off.  Anyway, in my dream I was wandering the halls of my high school.  I wasn’t back in high school, I was at the age I am now and I was on a mission.  It’s funny how in your dreams, you can remember everything.  It was like nothing changed.  I could see the hallways, the classroom doors, the windows to the outside courtyard areas and even some familiar faces passed by.  Like I said, I was on a mission but I was not sure what for.

Then I saw him….this little skinny dark headed teenager huddled into a ball on the floor up against the wall, hiding his face.  There were larger boys above him shouting mean things at him, calling him a wimp, a pussy and a freak.  I ran over to him and yelled at the bullies to leave him alone.  I screamed at them… “Leave him alone or I swear, I’ll kick your ass!”  This strikes me as funny now because, I went to a Catholic high school. I vaguely remember them actually taking me seriously and leaving.  I took the young boy’s arm and helped him up.  I noticed he had been crying and it broke my heart.  I said “C’mon, we’re going to the office”.  My blood was boiling and even though this was a dream, I could feel the heat on my face.

We made our way to the school office (which in my dream hadn’t changed in almost 18 years) and I asked to speak with a counselor on behalf of this poor kid.  This is where it got strange…well, stranger.  We sat there for what seemed like hours and finally were ushered into one of the rooms.  I started to lose my cool and go off about how this boy was being bullied and the man standing there calmly listening to me just put his index finger up to his lips….in the manner to tell me to be quiet.  Then the bell rang….which really was my damn alarm.

When I woke up I had no idea where I was, what year it was or how old I was.  Above all I couldn’t help but feel as if the kid still needed my help!  I might be completely whacked and need to lay off of the wine/benadryl bedtime cocktails but it was like I was reading a book and wanted to see how it ended.  The fact that I had to wake up makes me feel incredibly cheated and weirdly, a little sad.

What the hell is wrong with our brains…I can barely control mine when I’m awake and then it completely takes over while I’m asleep too.  That’s just not fair and I refuse to be a pawn in it’s little game.  Maybe this is how authors get their inspiration for novels….as a dream that had no ending so they felt the need to make it semi-reality by putting it on paper and sharing it with the world.  I bet J.K. Rowling had some crazy ass dreams — I mean she HAD to have been asleep when coming up with some of that Harry Potter stuff.  Think about it….Voldemort must’ve been a product of the subconscious mind….his nose-less, snakelike appearance had to be the brain on overdrive sleep mode.  Now she’s a multimillionaire.  Damn….I need to start writing!

Well good morning handsome…

Beautiful Blogger Award: Call the Paramedics!

Oh my goodness…three awards in 3 days….I don’t know if I can take all this excitement.  I am getting older you know!!

The Beautiful Blogger came to me by way of Carla Sue @Eat Sweet. and I can’t be more thankful.   If you haven’t done so already I strongly urge you to get on her blog and check out those incredible little bits of heaven that she makes.  A personal favorite….because I’m a Harry Potter nerd …she has successfully conjured up Butterbeer.

Since I’m accepting the award, I need to come up with 7 more things about me.  This is going to be difficult.  I’m not that interesting people!!

  1. I took a freshman to senior prom.  Yup, cradle robber.
  2. All ASPCA commercials make me cry.  I’m crying right now, there’s one on TV at this very moment.
  3. I took Spanish class from Kindergarten – graduating high school and all I can say is “Hi what’s your name?”
  4. I never went to public school in my life.
  5. I’ve never gotten a speeding ticket (or any other traffic-related violation)
  6. I’ve never broken a bone.
  7. I quit smoking after 16 years about 3.5 months ago cold turkey.

Below are the blogs that I would like to pass the Beautiful Blogger Award on to.
Congratulations to all of you, it is well deserved.


#iPhoneography & Observations

Don’t Quote Lilly

Long Life Cats and Dogs

The Fire Horse

Native Michigander.com

Finding Furever

The blogs I have listed have supported me and been following my blog for a while.  I enjoy visiting their sites just as much.  Congratulations!

Beautiful Blogger Award – Rules for Winners (if you choose to accept!)
1. Thank the person who gave you the award and link back to their blog.
2. Choose seven blogs to nominate and let them know by leaving a comment.
3. Request that the chosen blogs pass on the award to their favourite blogs.
4. Copy and paste the award on your blog post.
5. List seven things about yourself.

Rave: I’m Blushing!

I have to say that when I started this blog a few months ago it really was just a way to document and share my family’s travel experiences along with a few of my homemade recipes.  There was a point where a light bulb went off and it dawned on me that I could share just about anything in regards to my mundane, everyday life and it would be entertaining.  Why?  Because it seems like for the Dockerys, there is never a dull moment.

I did enjoy English class and I used to classify myself as a pretty good writer.  It does seem however, that if you don’t use it, you lose it because compared to the majority of the blogs that I read on a daily basis, my writing is similar to that of a first grader.  I’m sure that I will never make the NY Times best seller list or win a nobel prize but if I can just make one person laugh or smile while they are reading my blog, then it makes me feel like I’ve accomplished something.  My blog is also a journal of sorts and I love the fact that I can go back and relive my family’s memories over and over again.

So, the point that I am getting to is that I was uber-excited when I received two blog awards (the Versatile Blogger Award and the Beautiful Lipstick Award) from Lorna of Lorna’s Voice .  I really have never given much thought to my blog as being award-worthy!  Thank you Lorna, I am truly flattered and because of this, I’m inspired to do some research into how I can be a better blogger.  Your blog is one of the first that I started reading when I became a member of the blogging and WordPress communities.

I also thank all of my readers and followers that you choose to come back to my blog time and time again to see what crazy s*** I have to say!

From the bottom of my heart!